Newswise,
September 10, 2015 – While all too many marriages end in divorce, many couples
achieve long and happy unions.
Based
on what he has learned during 35 years in the field, Loyola University Health
System psychologist Michael Hakimi, PsyD, offers these 10 tips for achieving a
successful marriage:
Love
your spouse unconditionally. Be generous in expressing your love, even when
there is an issue. Always remember what attracted you to each other in the
first place, and keep these feelings alive. In words and actions, make your
spouse feel very special. Commit yourself 100 percent.
Communicate with kind words and compassion. Avoid harsh criticism and blaming. Never neglect to say “Thank you” and “I’m sorry.” Express gratitude and appreciation for any act of kindness, service or good will. Establish a relationship that is based on honesty and mutual respect.
Communicate with kind words and compassion. Avoid harsh criticism and blaming. Never neglect to say “Thank you” and “I’m sorry.” Express gratitude and appreciation for any act of kindness, service or good will. Establish a relationship that is based on honesty and mutual respect.
Place
the interests and welfare of your spouse above those of your own.
Be
faithful to your spouse, and make love as often as you both are in the mood.
Provide
for the needs of your spouse to the best of your ability.
Listen
carefully and try to understand what your spouse is saying.
Take
your spouse’s opinion into consideration before making any important decision.
Work
to overcome the undesirable traits in your own personality and behavior.
Continually
seek ways to become a better husband, wife or parent.
Follow
the Golden Rule: Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated.
Dr.
Hakimi is an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral
Neurosciences of Loyola University Chicago Stritch School of Medicine.
